WHY GOOD GIRLS REMAIN SINGLE???? Bad girls are getting married every now and then…………..

A book WHY GOOD GIRLS REMAIN SINGLE by Nelson Asuen has pin pointed some noticeable hints to this important question. This short, wonderful and sweet book has been a convincing tool to me when writing this important matter.

One would ask who are good girls? These are those who have dedicated their lives to pursue God’s ways and are obviously churchy. On the basis of the same platform these girls are waiting for “the good man”. It is not a matter of doubt but rather a sorrowful concern.

Then who is a bad girl? Concisely, I can dare say a bad girl is an antagonist of a good girl. Non churchy and one who dedicates her lifetime seeking the best of her heart from people (mostly men) and nature. Now, unlike the good ones, a bad girl does not know to wait for a perfect time that a right man shall come.

Any one may have a self-definition of goodness when girls and women are pointed. However from a moral aspect, many people from different societies will have a view less or more similar to the above. This creates a good basis towards the good answer to the subject matter.

The secret code for the question above is deepened inside the men’s hearts. What men want? What men want to marry a woman? What components of female character turn her from dating material to wife-material. Unequivocally speaking men are attracted by what their eyes see. Even Adam (primarily) liked Eve from how she looked-like and not the inner beauty she had (Genesis 2;22,23). Men are interested in characters which are portrayed than what is abstract. Men believe that they socially believe respect than women and any negligence to this idea poses a doubt to transform courtship to marriage.

Good girls believe in inner beauty than outer one. This feature can be accessed by very very and very rare men. Being the case they believe that good men will automatically approach and hence marry them. This is unpractical. They also lack self improvement, simply they are socially static. They abscond some feminine topics and engage in only general topics (business, politics and finances). Thinking that discussing feminine matters is becoming “a bad girl” is a critical weakness.

Good girls call their close male friends as “he is just a friend” or “he is just a like a brother to me”. Let us drop down this comedy and seriously say “a good spouse is originally a good friend”. A good male friend can turn into a good husband. Bad girls know how to respect manhood to a further extent than the counterpart. Some good girls they think they are too good to respect men and in turn they are hoping for a greater respect for their prior preservation.

Good girls believe there is a specific kind of man they are looking for. Nelson in his book says they are looking for a man who is good-looking, God-fearing, well dressed, responsible and rich; such man that has all such characters at the first point you meet him is only “Jesus Christ”. This idea never means that having standard for man is bad but rather means having realistic standards. A natural man can not have all the qualities a lady wants at once. But surely he will have some. Therefore all a lady needs is to check the most important ones.

Bad girls are confident enough and are very much aware of what men want and there fore they invest time and other resources to make themselves appear attractive and maintain their relationships with their men. This is founded on their post-exposure knowledge, understanding and several experiences they attain.

Does this mean good girls should become bad girls to get married? The answer is strongly “NO”. Good girls should improve their characters, should never forget their feminity on top of their dignity. They should read books, seek cinemas/movies, social seminars and other sources of knowledge through which they can understand marriage and other societal matters. Natural girls should be well raised not to become bad ones. If good girls dominate the world then good wives, good mothers and finally good generation will come.

Nelson Asuen; the author of the book  “WHY GOOD GIRLS REMAIN SINGLE?” has been my instant inspiration and I have laughed and learnt a lot to the extent of writing and quoting some important sentences so that I can bring to you this important overview. I can tell that there are plenty in the book. Go read it.